Flying Arrow,
If you go into your profile, you can input your Instant Messaging ID, be it AOL, Yahoo, etc. Then, on your posts, there is a link where a user can click on to send a IM directly. Same think with e-mail as well. This is an alternitive to messaging within the site. Not sure if it is better or worse, but an alteritive.
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-Crip[/glow]