Most important investment of all… kids

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@Sweet  I wish!  Sadly I am a long term Nintendo bagholder ever since they announced the change to become a platform and expand into movies/amusement parks/etc..  

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On 6/27/2026 at 1:05 AM, Saluki said:

I had a lawschool classmate who was top of the class and he told me that he didn't talk until he was 4 also. He said he understood everything, even when his parents were discussing why he wasn't talking. He just wasn't talking.

 

I have ADHD and wasn't diagnosed until my 40s, and if I'm honest, I might have some of the 'tism though I've never been tested. You're on here so your obviously smart and it runs in smart families. Ferraris have powerful but finicky engines. On my mother's side I have two family members who were supreme court justices in Latin American countries. I also have a cousin who doesn't make eye contact, doesn't talk much, but has published more scientific papers than I have read. I'd rather be in a family that has that trait (good and bad) than one with people who go to watch UFC fights on the White House lawn and can't figure out 20% tip on a restaurant bill without a calculator. 

 

Four is very young. Too early to tell. I just had a baby, and I know that being older (55) increases the odds of stuff like that. I do worry about it. But it's not something that I will be able to know, and I don't want it to interfere with the process of raising him. 

 

The fact that you're worrying about it shows your a present and concerned parent. So I think he'll be okay either way. 

 

On 6/27/2026 at 3:34 AM, Marco Van Basten said:

When I was at Yale doing my undergraduate degree, I met a guy from Ethiopia who was a fellow student.  He was a year older than he was supposed to be based on his class, and the reason was that he was left to repeat a class in Ethiopia when he was in kindergarten.  Teachers in kindergarten had thought that he was retarded.  The guy was an engineering major.   Just because people think you are a retard at age 4 does not mean that you are, you may turn out to be smarter than everyone else, just wired differently.

thanks both for these stories.  My son is most definitely wired differently, he thinks of thinks in ways that nobody in my family does… he’ll have a unique intelligence if he can just get the words out, I’m feel confident.

 

Saluki, lots of factors matter. Prematurity is one of them.  Take your kid everywhere you go, they’ll probably be just fine.

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Consider Kumon - reading and math.

 

I put my daughter in at age 2 in the reading program.  Now at age 4 she can read at a grade 1 level.  Will be starting math next month. 

 

They are short exercise booklets,  designed for repetition and developing focus.   Students progress at their own rate.  Fosters a great parent bond with the child, but requires patience to get through the daily homework.  

 

Would not underestimate what a child can learn. The brain is mysterious.

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37 minutes ago, ICUMD said:

Consider Kumon - reading and math.

 

I put my daughter in at age 2 in the reading program.  Now at age 4 she can read at a grade 1 level.  Will be starting math next month. 

 

They are short exercise booklets,  designed for repetition and developing focus.   Students progress at their own rate.  Fosters a great parent bond with the child, but requires patience to get through the daily homework.  

 

Would not underestimate what a child can learn. The brain is mysterious.

Check out spirit of math too. My three kids are still in it, oldest at the grade 11 level. Less rote than Kumon, more problem solving focus. Highly recommend it